There was a time in my life where everything sucked, because I sucked.
I saw how others were shaping their destiny, and I wondered why mine was going down the toilet. Then the moment came where I said: ENough !
To hell with it, I’m going to change this !
(hint: being mad is awesome at times. It gives you the wild energy you need for massive change !)
I took drastic measures, and recreated the way I perceive and live life.
It’s a process that’s still in progress, but I’m closer to where I want to be.
I believe:
In order to kick-ass in both the real and online world, you have to have an extra-ordinary psychology.
Every action and decision you take is shaped by your mindset.
Here are 6 ways of applied thinking that dramatically changed my (digital) destiny:
Work smart, not hard
Gary V. says you have to hustle, and to a certain degree, he’s right.
But working more hours doesn’t mean more quality – it means the opposite. Whenever I work my soul off, I see the quality of my actions decreasing.
And the sad truth is: I don’t really accomplish more. It’s just my society-corrupted mind that makes me want to believe I do.
Focused and intense work in shorter periods is the new way to go for me. I have cut my working time in half by setting ridiculous low time limits. The less time you have, the better your focus on the essential stuff.
It’s fun and effective.
Don’t work hard, work smart. Focus on the most important things, and hack away the unessential. You’ll experience a new level of quality in your actions.
It’s ok to suck…sometimes
I wish I were a magic being with endless energy – but even a fire reactor like me experiences an outage every other day. Back in the days, I used to beat myself up for that, but I have learned.
We are humans, and even the most ambitious need to suck on some days. Whenever that happens to me, I just go with the flow – read a book, watch a movie, or learn Japanese :)
I won’t allow that event to break my mood. I accept it, because I know that those moments make my working periods so much sweeter.
Give yourself permission to be unproductive on some occasions, for the sake of being human my friends. But don’t let it become a habit ;)
Focus is the only god you should pray to
In a past life that I don’t want to remember, I heavenly sucked at using my focus. I just couldn’t keep it – whatever I did, I switched my focus from one thing to the next without finishing one task for good. Needless to say, my life wasn’t as epic as my imagination made me believe.
Thanks to heaven, that changed now. With enough practice, and the determination of a god (Mars is actually the name of one ;), I tamed that beast called focus.
And now I experience a whole different level of life – everything is much clearer now – my relationships, my work and my destiny – everything !
If you want to experience a quality of life that others only dream of having, practice your focus. Concentrate on what you want to have or feel, and ignore everything that stands in your way. It works like white magic !
Abrakadraba.
Don’t look for the approval of others for your mental stability
No matter what you do, there’s always someone who wants to bash you for that. It could be your friend, your family or your partner – it doesn’t matter.
A lot of people that ask me about my future plans always end up shaking their heads. They simply don’t understand what I’m planning to accomplish, and that’s why they criticize it.
Well, that’s their problem. My only concern is to please myself, and those who share a similar vision.
Every morning, I walk to my mirror and say: Mars, you fucking rock !
Stroking your ego is essential – You are the most important person in the universe. It’s time to accept that fact.
Forget about compliments and insults, they are all the same. Someone says you are awesome, and you feel awesome. Someone says you suck, and you feel like crap. Ahh, life doesn’t have to be so terrible.
Promise yourself to be emotionally independent from the good or bad opinions of others.
Never give someone permission over your feelings. You are responsible for your inner state. 100 %.
Epicness begins when comparison ends
This is a biggie – probably practiced by the majority of this planet. I used to compare myself to other people ALL the time – and it broke my mental neck:
Look, this guy is started blogging with 35, hah, I’m much younger. Crap, this boy is 18, and he’s already making a 5 figure income.
Ahhh, useless ! There’s always someone better or worse, no matter how good/bad you are.
I stopped comparing myself to others, because the only person I have to “beat” is myself. Am I better today than last week ? If the answer is no, I know I need to change something. And that something is almost always smart and massive action. Failing forward, and fast !
Forget about the others, measure YOUR progress.
Tell yourself: How can I make this month better than the last ?
It’s way more fun and productive.
The most important thing is to do things, not to have them
That’s the minimalist soul speaking in me. I recently stopped buying material crap I don’t need, and focused (here’s that word again) on positive action that brings change. The joy from buying new things, no matter how freaking awesome ( a new notebook ) is short-lived. The minute your call it yours, it’s boring. NEXT !
Instead, I concentrate on spreading my digital influence and learning new things about the online world – I’m studying and applying, studying and applying.
Bliss-inspired actions are utlra-fulfilling – no material possession will ever compensate for kicking ass and enjoying it !
Whoosh – that’s a long one. But this is magic that I wanted to share. Spreading one’s influence and building your online business is challenging work. We all need to nourish our souls, and accept our downsides.
How do you care for your soul and well-being ? What actions do you take to give your life a kick-ass quality ? Share it in the comments, I’m curious ;)
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